Fear of Initiating Things

As far as I know myself, this is the main cause of not doing things which I really wanted to do in my life that is FEAR OF INITIATING THINGS. This seems really silly when you read about this but we all suffer with this in our own lives.

Fear is the driving factor which keeps us stalled and prohibits the progression of moving forward. It’s easier to make excuses because it’s scary to take the first step. Many of us struggle with this inner battle every day. Fear is a terrible thing when you let it control you. The results will be worse. Even after your talent, all your passion, all your dreams, you will be remain alone, broken and stressed just because you have fear, fear of initiating. This fear is just like cancer which eats up everything, your happiness, your growth, your dreams, and your passion everything. Allowing fear to rule over every aspect of your life is far more disastrous than choosing a life ruled by love and hope. Choosing Fear as a governing emotion of life will strangle your life to death.

 There are many reasons which make Fear much more complex. 

First and the most common fear is that you will fail or do badly. Since we were kids, failing is the word that’s been engraved in our heads. We have been taught to avoid failures. We never realize that failure can be a good and positive thing too. Without trying something, you never know if it’s the right path to be taken. We can learn from failures. Failure is not really a failure but a process of trial and error. 

Second fear is the fear of putting yourself out. What people will say, how they will react, what if they didn’t like it, these are few things we all afraid of sometimes. There are people that may react negatively to your work but there are more individuals who are impacting and helping. There are people who will keep you fueled and make you feel that you are doing the right thing. 

Third is the fear of unknown things. Basically you are not familiar with the task, so you don’t want to do it or you don’t know where to start. You are not sure of the risks so it’s hard to see the rewards. It’s really hard for a person to come out from the comfort zone and easier to stay in routine life because it feels safe. You need to realize that anything worth having in life requires risk and you will never know if you don’t try it. 

Fourth one is the fear of commitment, Commitment towards relations, job, friends, goal etc. commitment comes with the sense of responsibility. Commitment needs a lot of hard work and immediate results are rare. Commitment brings about change too. You need to be strong and focus on the positive sides. 

Fifth fear will look foolish but it’s true, fear of succeeding. Sometimes the thought of success actually scares enough a person to refuse to go down that road.  When a person becomes successful, the whole scenario suddenly changes. People around will start behaving differently. I would say don’t think too much about the success, just do your work, do what you love with your full strength. Success should never hold you back.

Things you should keep in your mind:- 

You need to get out of your comfort zone to get what you actually want.

Uncertainty is the part of life. Accept the changes with the positive mind.

Commitment brings progress in life.

Taking risks is must in life in order to move ahead towards you goals. Enjoy the excitement.

You are bound to get judged anyway, focus on the positive sides.

Enjoy failures and learn from them. Have fun in the journey of trial and error.

Only you can decide what you need to focus on. Control your thoughts and invest them in the right way.

You need to realize the fear which bothers you the most and ask yourself does that reason worth your life. Do you really want to live your life asking yourself “what if “. 

Until next time, Love yourself!!!